Finding love after 50 sounds like a quest only for the strong of heart -- a bit like Sir Galahad's search for the Holy Grail. But it isn't all that hard if you start by saying, "I'm ready. I'm going to succeed. I will persist, persist, persist."
But those are only thoughts. It takes action to succeed, and here are five key actions:
1. DO YOUR BEST TO LOOK YOUR BEST. We did an informal study of men's and women's personal ads in The New York Times. The predominant wishes of women were for men who are kind, have a sense of humor, are intelligent, and, hopefully, are well-off financially. But 80 percent of men -- perhaps seeing too many sex goddess movies -- were looking for "beautiful," or, at least, "attractive." Okay, so men are shallow. But if they want "attractive," give them attractive.
2. IMPROVE YOUR A.Q. (ATTRACTIVITY QUOTIENT). Anyone can improve. It just takes some well-focused effort. So before you begin your quest, join Weight Watchers and lose a few pounds -- a lot, if necessary. Add a few new mix and match pieces to your wardrobe. If you don't fully trust your taste, ask your best-dressed acquaintance -- the one who always wears just the right jewelry to go with her outfit -- to shop with you. (Don't stint here. You're making an investment for the rest of your life.) Get your hair done in the morning before taking a professional portrait for a dating site in the afternoon.
3. LAUNCH YOURSELF INTO CYBERSPACE. There are millions of us flying solo as either divorced or widowed these days and dozens of dating sites specifically designed for men and women 50 and over eagerly await our signing up with them. Some are free. Some are free for short periods. All you have to do to find them is Google "senior dating sites" or "boomer dating sites" and the like, and you'll find plenty to visit and select from. If one isn't giving you enough hits, try another. Or two at a time. Cyberspace opens golden opportunities. Seize them.
4. DON'T TAKE REJECTION PERSONALLY. A man hits on your profile, a conversation ensues, you think it's going well, but suddenly he vanishes never to be heard from again. So what. Who cares? There'll be times when you'll want to do the same. And when it comes to dating, think of every date as an adventure. If it ends with a handshake instead of a kiss, never beat yourself up. Just smile ruefully, mentally push last night's loser off a cliff, and move on to the next candidate.
5. FALLING IN LIKE CAN LEAD TO FALLING IN LOVE. Maybe you'll meet the man of your daydreams the first time out. But maybe you won't. Don't decide that's the end of your world. The guy you dated once but weren't magically attracted to could have been having a bad beard day. Give him a second chance. Maybe even a third. The man I wrote "It's Never to Late to Date" with was just such a case -- a depressed widower. It took me four dates to bring out the best in him, and we've been together almost seven years.
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Dorish Hill has been writing articles online for nearly 2 years now. Not only does this author specialize in Dating for Boomers, you can also check out her latest website about:
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