I have a male Baby Boomer friend who is single and not loving the fact he is flying solo without a mate. He wants desperately to share his life with a woman who is caring and kind and can enjoy the spoils of his multi million dollar business. And you think that would have the women lining up to meet him, wouldn't you? It wasn't until I accompanied him on a date with someone I had matched him up with, that I realised where he was missing the point completely.
Gordon is a very successful entrepreneur. He loves to find the little run down, under loved business, give it a huge financial kick in the pants and get it turning over bigger and better than ever before. In some ways he likes to find the bird with the broken wing and nurse it back to health. He is very attentive when it comes to these businesses, he does his due diligence, works out if they're right for him ad then decides what will mark their success. What Gordon misunderstood is that you can do those sorts of things with businesses, but when it comes to human relations you are going to need to inject more than cash to measure success.
I had arranged for Gordon to meet a friend of mine named Sarah, for a lunch at the local yacht club overlooking the harbour. Things got off great, there was a small kick under the table from Sarah to indicate that she liked what she saw. Gordon also managed to discreetly give me the eyebrows up, when Sarah was looking at the menu. Everything was going along swimmingly. Until...
Gordon started to talk about the boat that he had recently purchased and was moored here at the mariner. He told Sarah how much the previous owner had advertised it for, and then how much he had bargained him down to and finally purchased it for. It was a considerable saving. Seeing the polite interest Sarah was showing in his bargaining techniques, Gordon went on to describe other financial wins citing what he had paid for each and every item. He was basically giving her an inventory. Then, Gordon went on to mention how much his home was worth and what sort of car he drove and what he paid for that. Things started to go pear shape quickly.
By the end of the luncheon I think Sarah could have done Gordon's taxes for him as she had all the figures on every item of worth that Gordon owned. The next day, I called Sarah to see what she thought. She said she was put off by his financial bragging and the need to tell her how much he had paid for every item he has ever had to purchase or sell. Sarah did not want to meet up with Gordon again.
What does this tell us? Women like to be impressed by a successful man. They like to see and be on the receiving end of a successful man's spoils. Men should never mistake this fact as the need to divulge and "prove" themselves financially in order to attract a mate. Gordon had told Sarah outright what his net worth was. It's impressive I have to admit! But even that wasn't impressive enough if you are a bore to talk to.
Gordon forgot that a woman needs to make a mental connection with a man. She needs to know that she is attracted to him mentally, and that even if all the dollars ran out you could still have a conversation about it. What Gordon managed to do was boast about his good fortune and divulge far too much of his financials. This may impress your accountant, or bank manager but isn't necessarily true of attracting a mate.
Small talk can be completely underrated. If Gordon knew how to talk to Sarah, he would have found that she may have been interested enough to have lunch again sometime. Asking your date about what they do in their spare time, do they have any pets, where have they travelled and what their favourite foods are can establish a rapport between you and your date. Boasting and bragging should be kept at an absolute bare minimum and even then only come to light with some gentle encouragement from the person wanting to hear about it.
If you're a Baby Boomer and starting to date again, or finding that you are not getting that elusive second or third date there may be some polishing you need on your small talk. Don't underestimate the power of conversation. Long after looks and money have faded the conversations you have with your partner is what will keep your relationship alive. If you need some great tips and help on how to have a stimulating conversation with ANYBODY, then I suggest that you visit my favourite sources below.
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Dorish Hill has been writing articles online for nearly 2 years now. Not only does this author specialize in Dating for Boomers, you can also check out her latest website about:
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